How successful would you be at winning a game if you had no idea what the rules were?   How successful would you be at reaching a destination if you had no map, no directions, no compass, and all the road signs were written in a foreign language?   Could you build a house without a set of plans or direct a stage play without a script?

Well, our human lives can be likened to a game with rules, a journey with a destination, a house built with a plan, and a stage play that follows a script.

And, underneath the specific plans for every game, each journey, all houses, and every successful stage play, there are “Three Universal Laws” that must also be known and applied if success is to be had.

The ignorance of these three laws causes chaos and confusion and causes our experiences come mostly by accident, happenstance, and default.   To understand any aspect of life and to make conscious choices about that aspect you’d be wise to understand the three universal laws.

In every waking moment we are creating and/or altering our future, and we are doing so by way of the universal laws listed below.   We cannot not create, so the choice is to create by accident and default or to create by conscious intention.  

The three rules below apply weather you like it or not, and whether or not you are even aware that the rules exist.   Each of our lives is a product of the past use of these laws.  There are no victims, only unconscious creators.  

Here are the rules.   Do with them as you will.

The Universal Law of Allowing means dropping all judgments and all emotional attachments to what others are, have, or do.  This is quite different from being tolerant.   Being tolerant is not liking what someone else is or does and holding emotion-laden, negative thoughts about them, but letting them be or do it any way.   Practicing The Universal Law of Allowing requires granting to others the same rights you ask for yourself -- the right to be, have, and do whatever you choose.  Here's one interpretation of that law:

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Here’s another way of expressing this law:

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This concept may be vitally important because if the reincarnation belief system. is correct, God, your neighbor and you are all  one and the same thing.

Christian tradition has done well at teaching about love for God and your neighbor.   Unfortunately, it has been a dismal failure at teaching people to love themselves, and as you may already know, if you don’t love yourself, your ability to love anything or anyone else is drastically reduced.

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Some Expression of this Law:   Most Buddhists are quite skilled at practicing this law.   You might also notice that Buddhism is the only major religion that has never started a war.

You've probably also heard the Native American saying:  Before you judge a man, you need to walk a mile in his moccasins."

Here is a way to practice the Law of Allowing:   When you have an emotional reaction to someone else’s behavior, stop and tell yourself:  "He (she) is neither good nor bad.   I neither like him or dislike him.   He just is.   He's another human being doing the best he can.   Given his conditioning, his beliefs, his circumstances, his present needs and desires, I’d probably doing pretty much as he is."

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What Do You Choose to Support?   Part of your life force (the energy that sustains your body)  goes to support the physical reality of everything that you think about.   Do you really want you live your life tied to all those things you think are wrong?   Do you really want to give your life force to those things you consider wrong?”   If your answer is "no," then break the emotional ties.

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One way to practice the Law of Allowing:    Instead of making others wrong for who they are or what they do, become the observer and simply say, "That’s something I’m simply not willing to accept in your own life."   Then to allow the other person to be, have, or do as they will, without trying to fix anything, or change them, or make them wrong for being who they are, for having what they have, or for doing what they are doing.

A Quote from  "The Yoni Dance"   Here's a brief quote from The  Yoni  Dance, Book One -- Circles of Intimacy, Chapter 13,  The Law of Allowing, by R. Robin Cote’

Herbert points toward the window and says,   “Do you see that lamp post over there across the yard?”

“Yes,” I respond.

“Do you have emotional attachment to that post? — to where it is? — to what it does?”

“No.”

“When you can hold that same attitude for all of your fellow human beings, you’ll have mastered the Law of Allowing.   Our job is simply to allow all others the free will choice to be who they are and do whatever they do.   By giving to others the same thing that we ask for ourselves, we walk our own talk.   We also become the role models and set the example for others to follow.”

“That lamp post stands there 24 hours every day, seven days every week, and at night, shines light on the surrounding area.   That is its nature.   That is what it is.   That is what it does.   If you’re mad, sad angry, jealous, hateful or hold any other negative emotion regarding that post,  is it going to change what the post is or what the post does?”

“No.”

“If you bitch, moan and complain to the lamp post,  is it going to change what it is or what it does?”

Again I say, “No.”

“If you bitch, moan and complain to someone else about the lamp post, is that going to change what it is or what it does?”

“No.”

“The same is true for our fellow humans.   We each are whatever we are, and we do whatever we do.   We cannot change another’s nature, and, short of violence or threats of violence, we cannot force them to do other than what they do.   And even if we force them to do other than they do, they still remain who they are.”   

I ask, “What about using  lies and deception?”

"You can con them, cheat them, lie to them, or otherwise trick them into being or doing as you would have them be or do, but if you do, you steal their soul, you steal their freedom, you steal their God-granted right of self determination."   Two things you should know about that:  first, "What you do onto the least of mine, you do onto me."   and second,  whatever you put out you'd best be prepared to receive it back ten times over.  

In every waking moment, we are creating or altering our future.   Our lives are a product of our thoughts, our visualizations, our intentions, our emotions, our feelings, our beliefs, our attitudes, our expectations, and what we will (or will not) allow yourselves to experience.   Our lives are also a product of our spoken words, and your physical actions.

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Here’s the same thing in different words:

Within the context of life in a human body on planet Earth, we each create our personal experiences by our thinking; that is, by whatever we give our thoughts to.   We empower our thoughts with our emotions, and our thoughts manifest within the context of what we believe, what we expect, and what we will (or won’t) allow ourselves to experience.

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And in a list format:

My physical experiences are  a function of:

*   my thoughts,

*   my attitudes,

*   my beliefs,

*   my intentions

*   the results I expect,

*   the words I silently speak to myself   (self-talk)

*   the words I speak or listen to in the external world,

*   the sounds I imagined I hear,

*   the sounds from my environment that simply come into my ears,

*   the sounds I intentionally focus on and listen to  in 
            the external world,

*   the pictures, visions, and circumstances I imagined  in my  mind,

*   the pictures, visions, and circumstances I see in the external world,
           (including television)

*   my feelings    (internally and externally generated emotions),

*   my physical sensations,

*   what I will do 

*   what I will allow into my life,

*   what I won’t do,  and
*   what I will not allow into my life,

*   my actions (what I actually do). 

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 Our attitudes, beliefs and expectations are thoroughly programmed into our subconscious minds which is  infinitely more powerful than the conscious mind.

Our feelings (our emotions)  are also a major factor.   Thoughts accompanied with strong emotion have much more power and manifest much faster than thoughts that have little emotion attached to them.   Whether the emotions are positive or negative is irrelevant.  Whether our thought are intentional or simply come as a response to our environment is irrelevant.  For example, the things we watch and hear on television have a significant effect upon our experiences. 

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And here’s the same thing still again  in only eight words:

Our lives are what our thoughts make them.

The steps required to  accomplishing a common physical task are  incredibly similar to those required to manifesting an uncommon goal (a desire - a vision - an intention).  

Most people use the process described below unconsciously to accomplish their everyday activities.   The steps are so natural to us that most of us give them almost no conscious thought.   However, when your intention is to manifest a new goal, it is important to follow these steps consciously and intentionally.   Let's compare the two processes.

Accomplishing a Physical Task:  Imagine yourself getting into your car and driving to a destination.   How many possible places could you go to?  The number of choices is almost infinite.   All the destinations are already there.   You don't need to create them.   You simply need to choose a destination and then take the necessary steps required to get there.   In this example, imagine that you have been away from your beloved for over a month and your task is to drive your car to your home where he/she awaits you.    How do you get there?   

*   The very first step is to declare your intention to go to your home.

*   At the start of your journey  (when you first declare your intention) you cannot see, hear, feel, smell, or taste your destination, and yet,  you know your  home and your beloved are real and are there awaiting your arrival.   

*   You think about and focus your mind on your destination.

*   You set a time frame by determining when you expect to have reached your home.

*   Your attitude is one of joyous expectancy.

*   You are fully confident that you can take all the necessary steps required for you to  get there.   

*   You  expect to get there.

*   You  understand what the rules are, how the game is played, what is required of you in order for you to get your destination.   In this example, you know how to drive your car, read a map, etc.

*   You continue to hold the vision of being home.

*   You are willing to take all the steps you must take and do all the things you must do.   You begin and do them one at a time.

*   What you experience along the way home is consistent with or neutral to  your successfully reaching your goal.

Your self talk -- The words you speak to yourself about your destination,

The words you speak or listen to with others, 

The sounds you imagine and hear in your mind,

The sounds your randomly hear coming to you from your environment,

The sounds you intentionally focus on and/or listen to  in  the external world, 

The pictures, visions, and circumstances you imagined  in your  mind,

Your feelings,   (your internally and externally generated emotions)

Your physical sensations.

      All these thoughts, physical sensations, and emotions are consistent with or neutral to your reaching your goal.    If you havethoughts, sounds, visions, doubts, etc. about you not reaching your home,  you simply step beyond them.

*   You are willing to allow your anticipated experience (your arrival home) to come  into your life.

*   Failure is not an option.   Thought of failure are simply tossed out of your mind. 

*   You do whatever is required. 

*   "You do what works and what you do works,"  and soon, you find yourself at home with your beloved.

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Attracting a New Experience:  Now take the same steps you used to get home and apply them to manifesting an uncommon goal --  a goal that, at the moment, appears to be absent from your life.    Let's pick another example.   Suppose, for a moment, you are single and want to be in a loving intimate relationship.

Remember now,  your new lover is already real.   Your job is simply to meet him/her and recognize him/her when you do meet.   Your job is not one of creation.   It's one of attraction.   You are simply weaving your way through the maze of  infinite possible experiences on you way to the ones you choose to experience in this here and now life.   

You  transform your goal  into a physical experience  in a manner similar to that used to get to a physical destination in the example above.   Some of the rules are different, but manifesting a lover and  and driving your car to a chosen destination are both, first and foremost, mental creations.  In order to manifest your goal, you are required to follow the rules and use the tools at your disposal.   With some minor changes, the rules for getting to a physical location are very similar to manifesting a romantic partner.  

Here are the similarities and changes.   

*   Your declare your intention to find a lover. 

*   At the start of your journey  (when you first declare your intention) you cannot see, hear, feel, smell, taste your beloved, and yet,  you know he/she  is real and is in the world somewhere waiting for your arrival.   

*   You think about and focus your mind on your destination.

*   You set a time frame by determining when you expect to have reached your destination.

*   Your attitude is one of joyous expectancy.

*   You are fully confident that you can take all the necessary steps required for you to  get there.   

*   You  expect to get there.   When doubts arrive, you just let them be.   You refocus on your goal.

*   You  understand what the rules are, how the game is played, what is required of you in order for you to get your destination.   Here's where the two processes are slightly different.   Your tools for manifesting a vision are not physical.   Your tools are your thoughts, beliefs, attitudes, expectations, etc.   Re-read the section above titled:  The Universal Law of Thought    These are the tools for finding your beloved.

*   And while holding the vision of your new lover, you are willing to take all the appropriate steps and do all the things that appear to be the things to do.   

*   You ask your self, "What seemingly simple step can I take right now today that appears like it will move me closer to my goal?"   You take that step.    You look for other steps.  You begin doing  them one at a time.   

*   Your beloved comes to you not because you taking these steps.   He/she comes to you while you are taking these steps.   Creation is in the mind and not in physical activity.   Your physical activity simply focuses your mind on your goal, and your focus directs the universe to bring to you what your are focused on.   You activities also move you into the right places at the right times to bring you goal into your physical reality.

*   You focus your attention on your goal and you make sure that  your experiences along the way are consistent with or neutral to  your successfully reaching your goal. 

Your self talk -- The words you speak to yourself about your destination,

The words you speak or listen to with others,

The sounds you imagine and hear in your mind,

The sounds your randomly hear coming to you from your environment,

The sounds you intentionally focus on and/or listen to  in  the external world,  

The pictures, visions, and circumstances you imagined  in your  mind,

Your feelings -- Your internally and externally generated emotions,

Your physical sensations,

      You make sure that all these thoughts, physical sensations, and emotions are consistent with or neutral to your reaching your goal.   If other thoughts, sounds, visions, doubts, etc. come to you, you simply let them be.   Your step beyond them and re-focus on your goal.

*   You are willing to allow your anticipated experience to come into your life.

*   Failure is not an option.   Thought of failure are simply tossed out of your mind. 

*   You do whatever is required. 

*   "You do what works and what you do works,"  and soon, you find yourself with your beloved.