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Because  your wedding ceremony is a golden moment in your life, it requires special consideration.  If your wedding ceremony was a physical journey into married life. . .

Here Are Your Choices: 

As you know, there are numerous wedding officiants to choose from.   Unfortunately, all too many of them have a very limited perception of the heart-centered, ceremonial ritual called a wedding.   They can provide you with,  (metaphorically speaking)  a functional, bus ride.     If you're willing to have your journey into married life be of inferior quality, they will get you to your destination.    In contrast to that . . .

You tell us where you want to go, and we'll take you there.   You can sit  back,  and  in ease and comfort,  enjoy an elegant, first class ride, while we create the ceremony for you based on your needs, your desires, and your instructions.

If you so choose,  you can sit up front, and drive along with us.   Together we will  co-create a ceremony that expresses the essence of your commitment to each other.

What's Really Important: 

affordable price      ...

Budget:   Many people are on a very limited budget and, for them, obtaining quality service at an affordable price is important.   If money is critical issue for you, we can still provide you with quality service.   Please see our offer,  Weddings on a Limited Budget, on our web page titled:  
$ $ $   The Bottom Line   $ $ $.°    
We never have and we never will turn anybody away for lack of money.  

New to Weddings:   There are also those with an adequate or an extensive wedding budget who are still uneducated about weddings.   In the absence of knowledge, some people place minimal value on the ceremony itself.    Others have been told that the wedding ceremony is just a step along the way to their party.   Still others have been led to believe that the minister's job is just the fifteen minutes he or she spends officiating the ceremony.   If you are still new to wedding knowledge, we invite you to examine our web page titled:
About Wedding Officiants°    
This page will explain what's really involved in officiating weddings.

Impressing Guests:   Then there are those who would rather spend their money attempting to impress their guests.   They place little value on the ceremony, often have no idea what a wedding really is, and consider the officiant as just another servant.   Those who fit this description, need to be aware of the old proverb, "You get what you pay for."   

Of course they can save a few bucks by finding a cheap minister / officiant.  They can also save a buck or two by serving only bread and water to their guests.    But bread-and-water-only meal won't impress their guests any more than will hiring a second-rate minister to stand in front of their guests and read some words.   

If they want to impress their guests, we invite them to hire our services.   We'll create a memorable and meaningful wedding ceremony about which their guest will say "Ahhh"  instead of "Uuhh."    See our web page titled:
Our Commitment to You° 
You won't find a more impressive ceremony anywhere else.  

Top of the Line:   If you want top-of-the-line, high quality service,  you'll find it here.   But don't believe us, talk to the wedding service providers  we  work with:
Ask the Professionals 
See the next section below.  

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Dealing with Those Who Want 
to Choose Your Officiant for You:

Occasionally a bride and groom will feel pressured by one or more family members to use a particular officiant,   Often they are requested to use the pastor from their parent's church or an old family friend from who-knows-where that one partner hardly knows and the other partner has never met.

If this occurs regarding your wedding, we recommend that you interview whomever you are being asked to use to be sure you are completely comfortable with him or her as your officiant and that you are also satisfied with the type of ceremony he or she will provide.

Ask to speak to some of the wedding professionals who have witnessed him or her officiating a wedding.°   If they don't have any professional references, ask to talk to or read comments from some of the brides and grooms for whom he or she has officiated a wedding.°   Watch his/her face and body language as he/she responds to your request for references.   

If anyone becomes offended because you asked these questions, that's your signal to go elsewhere.   If you feel pressured to use a particular officiant, and you'd prefer that we (or someone else of your choosing)  officiate your ceremony, we have four suggestions:

First,  remember, it's your wedding, not your family's wedding.   You get to make the final decision.

Second, invite whomever is pressuring you to call some of the professional wedding service providers  on our reference list.°  

Third,  share with them the message titled,  A Loving Note to Parents.°  on our wedding rehearsal page.

Fourth, you may also choose to take advantage of our wedding gift and use one (or both) of the two, free, one-hour, Personal Success Coaching Sessions which we offer to all our brides and grooms.   (See the next section below.)   We can talk about a resolution to this dilemma or about anything else you'd like to talk about.    We look forward to serving you.   Please call us° so that we can set an appointment time for your free, in-person consultation.

Reverend Robert E. Cote'
Reverend Connie A. Poggiani
Rabbi Barry Tuchman

Two,  Free,  Life-coaching  /  Success-coaching  Sessions:  

In addition to weddings, we also focus on Healing and Counseling.   We teach others how to apply practical spiritual principles to their  moment-by-moment, everyday lives.   We teach people how to connect with their inner Divine Essence  and how to live by the guidance and wisdom that comes directly to them as a result of that connection.  

As a wedding gift, we offer two, free, "life-coaching"  and/or  "personal success coaching"   sessions°  to all our brides and grooms.   When you talk to us simply express your interest and we'll guide you to a detailed description of our work.   Then, you  can decide if you'd like to accept our gift.

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