In Knitty-Gritty, Technical Terms, What Is an Appointment?  

An Appointment to meet is a mutual co-creation between two or more people.   With regard to your wedding appointment with us, it's where both we and you put our integrity on the line. 

It's also one small test of how successful your up-and-coming marriage is going to be.   It's a test  in the sense that it represents how well you honor your commitments and it's a test because  it's a sample of your level of  integrity.  

In dealing with thousands of people over the years, here's an observation that we find holds true across the board -- regardless of age, gender, economic level, ethnic, cultural, and religious background, etc:  

To judge a persons character and to judge how they will relate to you in the future, simply observe how they treat animals, how  they treat their natural environment, how they treat physical and material things, and specially how they treat other people.**

Why is this so?   Because what you see someone doing to other people, sooner or later, given the means, the motive, and the opportunity, they will be doing the same thing to you.   

The consideration and respect (or the lack of it) that you and your partner show to us is what you can expect from your husband/wife in the future.   It's  only a matter of time until it shows up.   

In order to accommodate you,  we change, adapt and/or adjust our schedule.   We each set aside about two hours of our time specially for you.   We commit ourselves to being at the appointment location when you arrive.   We make sure the appointment area is neat and clean.   If the appointment is near or after sunset, we turn on several lights.

Because some people arrive early, we are usually prepared for appointments thirty minutes prior to our scheduled meeting time.  Appointments generally last about one hour.  Because some people arrive late, we are usually reserve an additional  thirty minutes after we expect the appointment to end.   

In essence we each commit two hours of our time to you.   Since both Connie and I are usually at our interviews,  that make four hours time set aside specifically for you.

If for any reason, you need to cancel or change an appointment, ethics, courtesy, and plain old common sense indicate that you should inform us of your change of plans.   Simply call us and either cancel or reschedule.   When possible, we'd appreciate at least a twenty-four hour notice.   Thank you.

What happens when You Don't Call to Cancel and You Fail to Show Up for Your Appointment?

You dishonor us.   You waste our time and energy.  You keep us away from other appointments or activities.   But much more importantly, you dishonor yourself and you jeopardize your marriage before it officially begins.   

The consideration and respect  (or the lack of it)  that you and your partner show to us is what you can expect from your husband/wife in the future.   It's  only a matter of time until it shows up.   And remember, discounting your wedding officiant is only one, small, minor detail in the vast arena of your marriage relationship.    If you and your partner fail at this minor test of integrity, just imagine the kind of behavior can you can both expect when major conflicts arise in your marriage?   

If you lack the integrity and the courtesy to call and cancel an appointment with us that you can't make or no longer want, we suggest you postpone you wedding until you've  dealt with you integrity problem.   If not, you're already on the path to joining the fifty percent of married couple who end up in the divorce courts.

An Invitation:

If you have any questions regarding this or any other issue that is causing problems in your life, or you are working on a project and would like a third-party, outside perspective on it, please take advantage of our free coaching offer.   See the page titled:  Two,  Free,  "Life-coaching"  and/or  "Personal-Success  Coaching"   Sessions°